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#BlackTwitterforBeginners

This morning I woke up (AMEN) and after being up for maybe 27 minutes, I decided to tweet. I am not feeling well and needed to document my (possible) final moments to the world (exaggerating here).

While on that wonderful microsystem of groupthink and “LOL! You lied!” I asked a question about two twitter users who go by the names of Venny and Darf. Until 11:25 this am, I really thought they were the same person. With that, I have decided to document a few thoughts that I am affectionately calling #BlackTwitterForBeginners. My disclaimer is this: Seeing as I never really had my membership approved, I could be completely off base with my assessment…and it may or may not have been done before.

But it’s Kwanzaa and I’m all about uplifting the community…and helping others avoid #BlackTwitter arguments. I LIVED THROUGH IT SO YOU DON’T HAVE TO!

Rule 1: Shifts are important.

There are three shifts on #BlackTwitter. Not like anyone gets paid or anything to be on there, but we just have favorite times to tweet. Usually, you see the same suspects on a daily basis during the same shift unless they are busy having bacon eaten off of their stomach (everyone on #BlackTwitter loves bacon, even the Muslims…because it’s Black Twitter). Still haven’t figured out what it means since…I see the same people all of the time who tweet about hating the same opinions all of the time.

Rule 2: Your opinion is great, if it’s different. But it’s also stupid, if you aren’t popular.

And who knows who will be popular this week? Because…I don’t. It’s almost like going to eat in the cafeteria at lunch and realizing, “Oh shit! That ONE cheerleader ain’t eating with the other cheerleaders today!” It’s confusing. Just remember that if your opinion is different, get ready to be called stupid.

Rule 3: No matter what, women are not funny…

Unless they made a list of Funniest Women on Black Twitter last year. Who decides which women are funny? Umm….the #AshyLarrys. I think. Still confused about this as well.

Note on the tag #AshyLarry:  @thepbg came up with this tag/list; I still think it’s funny today b/c most of them actually brag that they don’t use lotion

Rule 4: Love the music you want to love…

Just be ready to be called stupid if you are from the South (read: not New York or Philadelphia). You may be asking why? But…again, I don’t know. I’m from Louisiana.

Rule 5: Are you a woman who happens to be black and is a feminist? What about a man who thinks women should be able to do what that they want?

Don’t say either of these things unless you are ready to prove how much of a feminist you are. No. Seriously.

Rule 6: If you tweet something (read: your opinion), get ready to be told how stupid you are.

I know I said this in number two…but it’s different here. What usually happens if you are a tweeter such as myself (on the outskirts) and somehow are RTed numerous times (thank you @SallieMae), people will laugh at the funny tweet and then scan your TL for the controversy. Once a person who doesn’t follow you RTs a lot of your tweets, get ready…because something is going to happen.

 Rule 7: Darf and Venny are NOT the same person.

So…do with that what you will.

Rule 8: Nothing is as it ever seems.

I have a gift of coming into “funny” twitter discussions at the wrong time. Remember what I said about shifts. I don’t know which shift I belong to LOL. Anyway, I always come in at the wrong time so I see all of the funny twitter hashtags about Black women when the #AshyLarrys get ahold of them. So on Twitter, it is important to remember that…Black men are always funny and if you don’t think they are, then you just don’t know humor.

Rule 9: People will steal your work.

This one is pretty self-explanatory I think and by work, I mean tweets. Like…they will legitimately take your tweet and copy-paste it with a slight change (think changing “too” to “2”). So be quick whenever you think of something funny and pray no one steals it from you. Amen.

Rule 10: If you are ever asked, Black Twitter does not exist.

This is the most important rule. You are stupid for thinking/saying it exists.

So that’s it. Here is what I’ve been able to surmise from my time on Twitter since 2009 (I pray that #OreoTwitter will accept my application any day now because I’m tired of being confused). Also, there are levels to this shit and no one ever has the answers.

Did I do that right?

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You Get More Flies With Honey

I used to not understand this saying…but I got it! When I did, it really was an, “Oooooohhhhh! That’s what that means!” kind of moment.

I had to laugh.

So what sparked it? I’ve sorta taken an impromptu break from actively tweeting from my twitter accounts (if you followed me during #31WriteNow, my bad). I had to do this though. Not only did I find myself losing valuable time, I found myself getting angry. Mostly at people I don’t know, have never met, probably won’t ever meet, and who don’t pay my bills. And when I say “angry,” y’all need to know that I mean just that. ANGRY! So I logged off around 9:00pm on Sunday, September 8th and I haven’t really been back.

Save for the occasional logging in to schedule some tweets.

AND I’VE BEEN COOL!

Now what does that have to do with flies and honey and whatever else? I’ll tell you. On September 11, 2013, I logged into Tweetdeck to schedule some tweets because I’m a businesswoman with a promotional contest going on and I wanted to let the people know about it. Within twenty seconds, I saw no less than four tweets that made me say, “You get more flies with honey. Didn’t ya Grandma ever tell you that?”

That’s when it hit me!

I finally got it and why did I get it? The tweets I saw spoke of a certain group (feminists) with a particular attribute (natural hair) in a less than flattering way. While I got what the commentators were trying to say, I really understood that even the people and things we don’t like deserve to be spoken to in a nice way. Who cares if they come across as undesirable to you? That’s not YOUR issue. Your duty is to treat everyone as you’d want to be treated (Golden Rule) and I’m for damn sure that you wouldn’t want anyone to share anything with you that leaves you with a bitter after-taste?

Then again, that could be your “thing” and if it is — carry on.

The fact remains, that’s not everyone’s thing. People appreciate honesty and tact. People don’t want to be told anything in a rude manner because you “tell it how it is” and you’re just blunt. No. You are rude and your Mama probably should have put you in timeout for that. See? That wasn’t nice to read was it? Not at all. Which makes my point. Be nice to people.

Even flies like honey.

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You Can Be Anything!!! – pt. 2 (#31WriteNow)

As promised, here are my (somewhat) final thoughts on believing I can be anything.

This morning, I had a phone call with a support coach to help me with my business. I’ve been frustrated for a long while about where it is and the results I’ve gotten and after some soul-searching, I realize it was the same frustration that was at my job and in relationships and everything. Basically, there has historically been a disconnect between how people saw me and how they treated me. And I mean ALL people.

Including myself.

It is in this disconnect that the frustration has festered and grown BUT it is in this frustration that I have decided to want a new life. As my Life Coach AND my Support Coach (two different people) have said before, “If there is a desire, the Universe works to present an opportunity.” Seriously, they both said this! In being anything, I desire to be everything that I’ve ever wanted to be.

I want to be:

  • Wealthy
  • An example of prosperity and abundance
  • Content with life as it is
  • Grateful for everything that comes my way
  • A doctor (in the philosophical sense)
  • An AWESOME daughter, sister, niece, aunt, cousin, friend, etc.
  • A wife
  • A mother
  • An example to others that they can get out of debt and STAY OUT of debt
  • Stylish
  • Confident
  • A successful business
  • A successful businesswoman
  • Sociable
  • Worldly (someone who travels a lot)
  • Fluent in two more languages (Italian and maybe Arabic; the third language is up for grabs lol)
  • Healthy
  • A marathon runner
  • Well-read (I love books!)
  • Someone who reaches the goals she sets for herself
  • Compassionate
  • Understood
  • Loved
  • Mentally healthy
  • Someone who has grieved the loss of loved ones in a healthy sense so I can move on and develop/strengthen relationships with people who are here
  • A mentor
  • A mentee
  • An example to people that they can make it too and someone who provides tools (I sometimes feel that’s what I missed in the healing process)
  • A known blogger for Young, Gifted, Black & Broke
  • A writer
  • AWESOME

I know that bringing this list to fruition will take some serious self-reflection and some serious internal work with building a new mindset and developing new habits but I’m up for the challenge. What’s exciting about this (and scary all at the same time) is that people have also shared that I’ve only touched upon the tip of my potential. There’s so much more there.

Let’s see where this journey takes me next. Cheers!

Being a Business(woman) IS Hard (#31WriteNow)

So if you follow me on Twitter, then you often hear me mention Professional By Design NOLA.

That is my business.

Now, I called this post “Being a Business(woman) IS Hard” because it is. And why write it as “Business(woman” and not “businesswoman”? Simple. I am my business first (it’s just me). I just happen to be a woman. But that’s not what this post is about. It really is about my frustrations with being a Business(woman) with a particular type of company.

Professional By Design NOLA is a personal development company that happens to focus on the professional development aspect of securing a job. My approach has always been to get people to see themselves differently and equip them with a mindset AND a resume/cover letter so that they are better prepared for applying to jobs, doing well in all of the interviews and fielding multiple offers.

It works. I’m awesome at what I do. I can point you to testimonials of this.

But there are a few “issues” that I continue to run into.

FIRST: “Oh you do resumes? Can YOU call me so YOU can tell me what I need to do differently?”

Wait. What? You mean to tell me you have a question about my services and rather than ask the question via the form of communication you chose to contact me, you want me to call you and have a conversation with you. You know what that’s called? A consultation. You schedule consultations. You do not do consultations on a whim.

Next issue.

SECOND: Friends who say: “Hey Court! Can you look at my resume and give me feedback?”

You mean…for free? Like you know I have a business and that’s what I do for my business and I’m supposed to do that for free? Wait…before I tell you why that’s wrong, I’ll let the Joker (courtesy of Heath Ledger do it):

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Like, if you take nothing else from this post, take this: It is offensive to ask your friends to do something for free that they charge for ESPECIALLY when you won’t agree to make it beneficial for them. Period.

THIRD: “Can you negotiate on your price?”

I love people and I understand that there are some instances where money is TIGHT! But this one is potentially the most hurtful. Economically, business people set prices so that they are (1) attractive to buyers and (2) meet the bottom line. In the first couple of years, a business like mine (one which offers a service and does not sell a physical product like shampoo) struggles a little more. We barely make enough to cover the costs that go into the business (advertising, outreach, etc.), so it is hurtful when someone approaches a conversation about our services on some “I’m going to try to get a discount” ESPECIALLY if you are inquiring about a sale or special promo.

FOURTH (and final): People who you’ve helped in the past trying to get free advice out of you every other time they talk to you.

Again, I understand that money can be tight. I get that. But do you go to the grocery store and expect to walk out with a dozen eggs because you paid for eggs that one time you went to the store? No. You wouldn’t even approach a grocery store like that. One – you consider that a need. Two – you respect the authority and the business. Three – it’s just dumb to do otherwise.

Basically, I just wanted to come and share a few things that have been bothering me.

If you have a small business or a product/service you sell, can you share how you handle these things without rubbing people the wrong way?

I would appreciate it.

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20 Questions with @FromRaeWithLove (#31WriteNow)

Every Wednesday, @FromRaeWithLove shares 20 questions with her TL/followers. These questions are awesome and you get to learn a lot about people you’re following. As a bonus, you get to follow more like-minded people that you may otherwise have never known about. Last Wednesday (Aug. 14th, 2013), I didn’t participate in #20WithRae because I was NOT feeling well at all. But I asked @FromRaeWithLove if I could blog about it and she told me that I sure could. So see my answers below!

Q1. Do you have a blog? Topic? #20withRae

Yes. I have two blogs! One has a very personal focus (MissCJayne). The other is chronicling my journey in breaking the cycle of poverty and building wealth for myself (Young, Gifted, Black & Broke).

Q2. How long have you been writing/creating? #20withRae

I’ve been writing since I was in the 2nd grade. I used to get in “trouble” all of the time for writing little stories in the margins of my tests because I would finish early. Most of the remarks from my teachers included things like, “I don’t know how she keeps up with the work if she’s daydreaming, doodling and writing other things. She doesn’t stay on task.” LOL

However, there was a period in time where I didn’t take it seriously. Recent events have been pushing me to get back into writing seriously.

Q3. Who are your mentors? #20withRae

Hmm, I don’t know if I have any mentors. I do know that I look up to my childhood friend Christiana Harrell, a self-published author who just LOVES to write and shares her gift with everyone. She describes her connection to writing in her bio on her website (linked above) by saying “Writing is my life. I don’t do it to make money. I do it because I enjoy it and I love the escape that comes with it. If I win awards with this gift that’s fine. If I don’t, that’s fine too. At least, I’ll have left something behind.”

I know that I had a question that this one made me think of — how do you identify a mentor? 

Q4. Have you ever submitted your work to a literary journal or for a print mag? #20withRae

Once when I was younger (in the 4th to 6th grade), my Gifted and Talented teacher submitted my work to this compilation book called Gestures. My Mom still has copies of those books. Other than that, I haven’t (probably because I’m afraid of rejection and I have a LOT of self-doubt).

Q5. Would you write under a pen name? #20withRae

This blog is sorta under a pen name, so I guess I would. I think my name is a regular, run-of-the-mill name and doesn’t really stand out anyway. LOL

Q6. Where do you get your creative ideas from?  What inspires you most? #20withRae

Life. Most of my creative ideas come about when I’m fighting my way out of a depressive episode. Other than that, I look for writing prompts or I go outside. One time, I even rode the bus for an hour.

Q7. Do you write from life events?  Would you write about your family? #20withRae

I do write from life events and I would write about my family. The thing that gets tricky in writing about family members is that other people don’t get the full story. I’m always afraid that people are going to react harshly to the folks that are intensely important to me, so sometimes I’m a bit hesitant to write about them.

Q8.  How often do you write? #20withRae

I write a little bit every day. I journal more often now (it helps me to keep my sanity) and I blog on a regular basis.

Q9. What is the best environment for you to write/create in? Music? Day or night? Home or in a cafe? #20withRae

Inside. I get distracted when I’m outside. I use music if I’m in a sad mood because it helps to life my spirits and I can write a bit easier that way. I’m not sure if I’ve noticed an inclination to write in the day versus the night though. And home is always the best place to write for me. If I’m outside (library or cafe), then I end up people watching.

Q10. Does it matter to you if your friends read or care about your writing? #20withRae

I don’t care if they read or care about my writing. What bothers me is that sometimes they feel I’ve been unfair in the things that I say. But I just gently remind them that my writing, especially when it’s personal, is about how I experience life. It’s not about them and it’s hurtful that they would approach me in that manner. Now, I’m not sure if they read my writing at all.

Q11.  What is your ultimate writing goal? #20withRae

I would like to have written a book about my life (I have a lot to tell); I would like to have written a fictional piece (I think this #NaNoWriMo is going to be the one I finally finish what I start lol); and I’d like to be published in a popular magazine or on Oprah’s website. Seriously.

Q12. What writers on Twitter do you follow? #20withRae

I follow @StacyAustralia. But that’s all I know of that writes. Hmm, maybe I should ask people if they write. lol

Q13. What writer-driven hashtags do you follow on twitter?  What twitter chats for writers, creators? #20withRae

I don’t know of any. I plan to check back on the answers to this question though and start following them. lol

Q14. If you got a rejection letter from your favorite author or publication, how would you handle it? #20withRae

Me? Rejection?!? Oh…I’d cry. Like real tears. For maybe a day or two. Then I’d question why for approximately three days. Then I’d follow-up within a week to ask why and get feedback. Hopefully, they’d be open to giving feedback so I could make some changes and resubmit. Is that how this works? lol

Q15. How are you inspired by other creatives? #20withRae

I’m usually inspired by the way other creatives use words or art mediums. Do they use them differently or more traditionally? I’m also inspired by my friend @Aunt_Flo who makes jewelry…which now that I think about it, I wonder, is this weird? lol

Q16. Do you cross post with other bloggers? Where? #20withRae

No, I don’t. I’m not opposed to this idea; I just need to become better at being social.

Q17. Please list your recommendation for books writers should read – fiction or non-fiction.  Books that changed your life. #20withRae

I don’t know that I have any recommendations. But on the topic of books that changed my life, I will ALWAYS mention Mildred D. Taylor’s “Roll of Thunder, Hear My Cry” and “Bridge to Terabithia” by Katherine Patterson. I love those books so much that if I ever had a child who said they didn’t like them, I’d send them away for a week and wonder how did I fail as a parent. LOL

Q18. Have you ever thought about attending a writer’s workshop? Which one? Did you apply? #20withRae

I haven’t but because of this question, I want to look into them now.

Q19. Would you self-publish? What platform? #20withRae

I think I would. I have to look into this though as I know nothing about it.

Q20. Where would you like to see your work in five years? #20withRae

RE: My Financial Story — On Oprah’s website. In Oprah’s magazine (or another popular magazine). Everything else? On a Best Seller’s List.

 

Things Black Girls Do

Things Black Girls Do!

 The number one trending topic on Twitter (as of 11:00 am) has finally caught my attention. What’s “unique” about this trending topic is that it comes on the heels of BET’s airing its first “Black Girls Rock” recognition/awards show. It was really good, from what I could tell after watching 16 minutes of the Encore presentation and 3 YouTube videos. So! Imagine my excitement when I saw “Things Black Girls Do” trending on Twitter (in my defense, I follow some really conscious and positive people, so I saw the nice stuff first). Then came the complaints and then I saw the tweets that didn’t leave us in too positive of a light.

So I’m here to shed some light on what Black Girls Do, Have Done, and Will Continue To Do…because lots of folks are confused.

 Black Girls Start Movements

Meet Claudette Colvin. In 1955 Colvin was a student at Booker T. Washington High School in Montgomery. Colvin was returning from school on March 2, 1955 when she got on a Capital Heights bus downtown (at the same place Parks boarded another bus nine months later). Colvin’s family did own a car, but she relied on the city’s buses to get to school. When a white women got on the bus and was standing the bus driver ordered her along with two other black passengers to get up. She refused and was removed from the bus and arrested by two police officers. She refused to give up her seat and has been quoted as saying, “spirit of Harriet Tubman and Sojourner Truth was in me. I didn’t get up.” Colvin was handcuffed, arrested and forcibly removed from the bus. She shouted that her constitutional rights were being violated. Although this case preceded Rosa Parks’ refusal by nine months, controversy surrounding Colvin’s image halted the NAACP from proceeding with the case. (Source; Source)

 Black Girls Carry Movements on Their Backs with Minimal Recognition

 Say “Hi!” to Elaine Brown. Elaine Brown (born March 2, 1943 in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania) is an American prison activist, writer, and singer; she is a former chairperson of the Black Panther Party. Brown briefly ran for the Green Party presidential nomination in 2008. She currently lives in Atlanta, Georgia, and is a founder of Mothers Advocating Juvenile Justice. In 1968, Brown joined the Black Panther Party as a rank-and-file member, studying revolutionary literature, selling Black Panther Party newspapers, and cleaning guns, among other tasks. Brown soon helped the Party set up its first Free Breakfast for Children program in Los Angeles, as well as the Party’s initial Free Busing to Prisons Program and Free Legal Aid Program. When Newton fled to Cuba in 1974 in the face of murder charges, he appointed Brown as his replacement. The first woman Chairman of the party, Elaine Brown was the Chairman of the Black Panther Party from 1974 until 1977. During Brown’s leadership of the Black Panther Party, she focused on electoral politics and community service. In 1977, she managed Lionel Wilson’s victorious campaign to become Oakland’s first black mayor. Also, Brown developed the Panther’s Liberation School, which was recognized by the state of California as a model school. Brown stepped down from Chairwoman of the Black Panther Party less than a year after Newton’s return from Cuba in 1977 when Newton condoned the beating of Regina Davis, the administrator of the Panther Liberation School. This incident was the point at which Brown could no longer tolerate the sexism and patriarchy of the Black Panther Party (A Taste of Power, p. 444). (Source)

Black Girls Beat the Odds

 Wilma Rudolph was born prematurely at 4.5 lbs., with 21 brothers and sisters, and caught infantile paralysis (caused by the polio virus) as a very young child. She recovered, but wore a brace on her left leg and foot which had become twisted as a result. By the time she was twelve years old, she had also survived scarlet fever, whooping-cough, chickenpox and measles. Her family drove her regularly from Clarksville, Tennessee to Nashville, Tennessee for treatments to straighten her twisted leg. In 1952, 12-year-old Wilma Rudolph finally achieved her dream of shedding her handicap and becoming like other children. By the time she was 16, she earned a berth on the U.S. Olympic track and field team and came home from the 1956 Melbourne Games with an Olympic bronze medal in the 4 x 100 meters relay. At the 1960 Summer Olympics in Rome she won three Olympic titles; the 100 m, 200 m and the 4 x 100 m relay. Rudolph retired from track competition in 1962 at age 22 after winning two races at a U.S.–Soviet meet. (Source)

 Black Girls Win Spelling Bees

 Jody-Anne Maxwell from Kingston, Jamaica, was the winner of the 1998 Scripps National Spelling Bee at the age of 12. She was the first contestant from outside the United States and the first black student to win in the history of the competition. According to Ebony magazine, she was viewed as a celebrity on her return to Jamaica. Maxwell also attained significant fame in Jamaican communities within the United States. (Source)

 These are just a few things that we do. We also blog, own businesses, run networks, own sports teams, teach, and embody the spirit of social justice. We act, we sing, we direct, we dance. We are the wives of presidents and rulers. We are known the world over for our commitment to people.

 In a perfect world, when these kinds of topics come up, people would shy away from the stereotypes. Let’s all take steps toward this world by portraying accurate pictures of Black Girls.

Social-Networking Sites: Are They Right For You?

This blog topic, like many others that I write, was spur of the moment. During a sneezing attack while on Twitter, I wondered, “How would a person know if a social networking site was for them?” Again, this came about during a sneezing attack which means that most of these ideas are Benedryl-induced. That…that is my disclaimer.

Many questions have been asked about sites that allow people to congregate and interact with like-minded people that they would otherwise NEVER meet. The most “popular” of these sites, Facebook & Twitter (I use these two because my login information is saved to my phone), have come under fire. There are issues with privacy (Facebook), server space (think Twitter and its infamous fail whale), cliques (well that’s everywhere), and other things that people are often wary about. If these regular issues don’t sit well with you, then of course, social networking might NOT be your thing.

Then there are the oft forgotten issues that people never think about…until they’ve thought of a clever username (that others are sure to have) and that great alphanumeric password (that they are sure to forget). So, I present to you:

REASONS THAT SOCIAL-NETWORKING SITES ARE NOT FOR YOU

1. Grammar and Sentence Construction are “Near and Dear” to your heart

It’s a tricky game, that one of sentence construction. It’s one that many people lose. By lose, I do mean “fail to win”. I’m often appalled by the number of people who see nothing wrong with their very apparent errors. It literally makes my soul hurt. This is especially noticeable on Twitter where there is an ingenious tool that allows you to RT (or Re-Tweet) the 140 (or less) statement of another user. It is here that I realize just how many people struggle with grammar because many people see nothing wrong with RTing a sentence that is just…wrong.

*Same holds for spelling.

2.  Commonly confused words being confused often bother you.

When I say bother you, I don’t mean that you go, “Oh…look they meant to use lets (as in allows) and not let’s (as in let us). I mean, you wish that there was a strike-through feature OR that you could report them as Spam because their mistake is an obvious one and since you know it, everyone should know it! Yes. If this you, then I invite you to join a support group…yet to be named…and yet to be scheduled for a meeting. I will be there. You just bring the cookies. By joining said support group, I will also mention that you might want to think twice before joining that networking site.

3. Do you feel the need to punch a Baby when people “Type L!k3 diis!”?

I probably did that wrong. I don’t want to go copy anyone’s clever (sarcasm) status. I would hate to piss on their wittiness…because well, I’m sure they tried very hard to figure out how to butcher the language that we speak in such a way that makes other people cry. All because it took us 4 minutes and the only thing we left that status with was a migraine and a devalued appreciation for our human brother/sister. Yes. It is that deep.

*There are exceptions of course. By exceptions, I mean, there are people who are allowed to type like that because they are a teenager at a failing school in America. Point of caution: I wouldn’t use that as an excuse to be cool. I do see Universities/Colleges googling students in the future and denying admission behind this…or is that just me?

4. Everyone is an Expert…

By expert I mean, they apply the things that work for them to everyone and quickly denounce any person and their idea should they disagree. I see many experts, from ones on “relationships with significant others” to “how you should live your life.” In each case, I’m filled with a sense of dread…and the sudden urge to find a ladder and sit on my roof. I find it disheartening to know that so many would slam others simply because they choose to disagree (especially if they are an “everyone needs to be original and/or free thinking” kind of person). I’m also reminded of my 8th grade English teacher (I think she taught English) and I didn’t like her in 1999-2000 and I still don’t like her now.

Other Signs That Social-Networking Sites Are NOT For You:

5. You dislike people who don’t know the difference between constructive criticism and destroying the esteem of others for the sake of a laugh…or whatever.

6. You really do enjoy the individuality of others. Social networking is proof that too many of us enjoy saying/doing/speaking/acting as others.

7. You despise those who make jokes of debilitating diseases/illnesses. There’s a lot of this that happens.

8. You Want To Smack A Person That Capitalizes Every Word Of The Sentence As Though It Is A Proper Noun Or Their Tweet/Status/Update Is The Title Of Some Ebony and/or New York Times Bestseller. How do you know if this is you? Did you want to punch me after reading that? Yeah…this is you.

While I’m sure there are other signs that you should REALLY think twice before joining a social networking site, these are the ones that the Benedryl brought to me in a vision. I hope that you can learn from my Pet Peeves so as not to make the same mistakes.

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